It’s 7:15 a.m. but your alarm was supposed to go off at 6:30, and you know that you’re going to be late for work. So you get up, and the first thing you do is stub your toe on the night stand, then when you attempt to make coffee you realize that you’re out of filters and start trying to figure out if you have time to stop at the coffee shop. You rush out the door in a frenzy, trying to be on time, but when you get in the car, the low fuel light seems to be brighter than it’s ever been, and you begin to accept the fact that it looks like it’s just going to be one of those days. You’ve only been awake for an hour and so much has happened already, that you start feeling like you mind as well take whatever pharmaceutical your doctor prescribed because there is no way that you can see yourself going through the rest of the day like this. Sound familiar?
In 2019, this is considered fairly normal because in today’s culture we’re all about the quick fix and we rarely think about what our human existence has become. In fact, I used to go see my doctor, explain a similar scenario, and receive mind altering, lab made, dangerous medications with no questions asked, based on the fact that I didn’t want to have to deal with bad days. My doctor even knew that I was also pouring vodka into my belly on top of the meds just to make sure I felt absolutely nothing at all, turning my bad days into a hard core addiction. She told me to be careful. Thanks doc!
Think about this for a second. We end up medicating ourselves for reasons like being late for work, not being able to make coffee, and having to stop for gas. I almost typed that sentence again but figured that you can just read it as many times as you need to until it sinks in. As soon as I was able to step back and get my mind clear enough to realize how dangerous this can be, is exactly when I knew I had been living my life all wrong.
I was born into a family of alcoholics and followed suit until just over two years ago when I finally said enough is enough. That’s when I started looking inward and facing all the emotions that I had run from for so many years. I started a meditation practice that has allowed me to go back to my childhood, recognize my behavioral patterns, and find the source of my anxiety so it can be ripped out like a weed.
The problem was that I lived in my families alcoholism identity, and then my own, until it almost became too late. I was entrenched in who I thought I was because I had not taken the time to realize how my subconscious programming was causing my self-sabotaging behaviors. I was fortunate enough to be able to give myself a second chance, and decided that it was time to start writing, knowing that what I had accomplished can be achieved by anybody. What I’ve learned is that life, and the happiness that goes with it, is all about we perceive good days vs. bad days, and that our human consciousness has the ability to choose between the two.
I stopped giving my daily energy and creativity away to things like social media, needless arguments, and subconscious beliefs that never aligned with who I was at my core. I put down the bottles of booze and pills and made myself the priority in my life. Medication is supposed to be for sick people, but advertising shows off pharmaceuticals like they’re part of a grand lifestyle. And in the cultural hypnosis that we’re in, it seems we’ve become addicted to nearly everything because there is no end to availability.
Instead of choosing to be angry at the events of your day, just know that whatever is happening right now is temporary and you have the ability to see it through. If I’m in a rush, and have a situation like the one I described earlier, then I know it’s time to sit down for a few minutes, close my eyes, and start breathing consciously so I can reset. If I’m already late and I have to take an extra few minutes, that’s okay too, because I realize that I have to be alive on this planet for any of this to matter. The point is to feel what your body is telling you in a controlled environment, rather than pushing it down so it can come back to haunt you at the wrong time.
The best practice I’ve found, in order to avoid choosing pharmaceuticals, or succumbing to having aggravating moments build up to a bad day, is to make meditation part of a daily routine. I started doing this by carving some time out of social media scrolling (until it was almost zero) and other nonsensical distractions that take my focus and energy away from being present in my life. Most days I’m able to meditate for at least an hour in the morning, and an hour before I go to bed, which makes for a much more restful sleep. It’s nearly impossible to start off having a bad day when you’re rested and have been able to clear anxiety during a morning meditation.
Always remember that you’re an adult and you can enjoy anything this life will give you, but do it knowing that you’re far more powerful than you ever imagined and that however you choose to feel about each moment will determine exactly how your day, and your life will go. So choose you and your well-being right now over everything else, and your life will start to look like the life you pictured before you slipped into the cultural hypnosis that is your matrix. And never take yourself too seriously.